7.16.04

Until the winds don't blow...

Question of the day... when is ok to be "respectfully defiant" towards your parents????

Ok so that sounds like an oxymoron... let me explain... Seth as you know has had some troubles with his mom. She just seems to have to have control over everything he does. For example she'll tell him you have to do this because I say so. End of story. She doesn't care how badly he doesn't want to or what he'd rather do instead. I mean I can understand occasional things she'd make him go to, but this is ALL THE TIME. She never lets him make his own decisions about anything. But the question is, when does it become ok to just say "No mom, I'm not going to go". I know in the bible it says to honor your father and mother. And I know you're always supposed to be respectful and everything. But it also says in the Bible that parents do not exasperate your children. But when is it that it becomes ok for him to tell them no I'd rather not. I mean he's 18, but he's still in high school, and living at home. Is it ok now because he's technically an adul†? Is it ok when he moves out? Goes to college? Gets married? Its kind of like a grey area now. I don't know what to tell him either. Now I know obviously he could do it now, but is it the right thing to do? Its confusing enough for me, let alone him. If I were him I already would've been as defiant as I can, but that doesn't make it right. I'm just naturally that way and I think I'd of already done it. But I know Seth really wants to do the right thing, and what God would have him to do. But which is the right thing? To obey what his mom says? Or to make his own decisions and tell her no now? I'd like to know what anyone thinks about it, my mom wasn't much help... leave me a note, or email me. And please keep Seth and his mom both in your prayers. :) Especially Seth. I really don't like how hard it is on him, and I'm sooo sooo blessed to have someone as wonderful as him, and someone who sticks with me through it all! I love you Seth!

Anyway, today has been ok... Its FRIDAY!!! :D I worked till about 5:30, came home, then went to dinner with Amanda and Nicole at El Ranchero. It was fun. The main reason we went though was for Amanda, since she and her boyfriend broke up yesterday. :S Its sad, but I know God has a plan for both of them, and maybe it just wasn't meant to be. I know she'll find happiness though. :)

Tomorrow I don't have anything going on except a youth meeting at noon to discuss details about our trip to Orlando next week. I'm still not excited. I don't know why I just can't get that way. Its pretty much 99.9% sure that Seth is not going to be going, so yea I don't even have that to look forward to. He's actually going to Holden Beach. He was wrong and thought it was Myrtle. Either way, he still has to go. I guess I can understand this one though, since its his Uncle's wedding. But yea, the long car ride is enough to detour me. Not to mention being away from Seth and my family for 8 days. I am worried with all 5 of us gĦrls in a room if tensions with one of the gĦrls might mount. I don't know. I mean there are some hurt feelings there... I know at least mine are. But hopefully we can be civil for a week. I'm trying to keep optimistic about it. I don't want to spend my whole time being miserable, but if I really had a choice I'd not go. Oh well. I'll have fun with Nicole and Amanda I'm sure. Seth and I will get to talk. It'll be ok. :)

Ok well this is long winded enough and I'm getting pretty tired, so I'm gonna go! TTFN!

~Melissa

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